Overheard my mum telling the molbi (holy man) to pray for me because I’m barren.
His reply ‘Oh she doesn’t have children?’ Awkward.
Just died inside.
I opened Pandora's box and infertility entered my life.
;( how horrible!
wow. just, wow.
Oh dear. Best intentions and all that.
Oh mum!! yeah, when they think they are looking after you.. but doesn’t realize the meaning of it.
Oh my! It’s rough when people are well-meaning, but…. ya know. Hugs!
She does mean well and I love her. It’s just not one of those things you want aired to people, is it? Holy or not.
Plus the whole this person’s prayers might be heard before yours because they pray more and are therefore considered closer to God is complete crap in my opinion.
Oh my, oh my, oh my. Just catching up on blogs and reading this one. Personally I think “barren” should be banished from the dictionary. And second, ah those best intentions, usually best kept to the intender . . . .
I think it’s a word from the old times. A friend’s wife sent a book of Islamic prayers for pregnancy. I’m sure she meant well but the chapter she highlighted for me was for the barren. It’s hard to swallow that word. I thanked her and silently died inside. Lots of dying inside during moments like those.
And so with the dying springs forth new life–stronger, bolder, braver, and better for the burning down . . . . 🙂
❤ beautifully put
Ouch! Just ouch!
I just read your post ‘Barren Woman.’ “I have God’s answer. He has already told me no 33 times. Not once, not twice, not even 10. 33. I am nothing but a fool for holding on all this time.” – really resonated with me. That’s how I feel and yet I crazily still hope. Maybe I’m scared of losing hope because with that I’ll face loss of faith in God.. and that would just leave me bitter.
Nobody’s prayers can be more sincere than the ones you make for yourself so i hate this daft thinking of a ‘holy’ person’s prayers being more effective! I fear i’m goung to be up all night catching up on your blog…!
And I think I’ll be spending all morning writing an email to you! 🙂
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